As the Song says: “What they do. They smile in your face…all the time they want to take your place. The Backstabbers. Backstabbers.” Now…Here is a simple truth. People are the same wherever you go. And…the workplace is no different. IT IS NO DIFFERENT. You need to understand & remember this…”Back Stabbers” are everywhere, too. No doubt. The sooner you accept this truth…the better. Alright.
People have got to stop acting like they are in some kind of “lollipop land” when they are at work. People seem to lose their common sense about the world we live in…when they punch the clock. The world doesn’t change because you are at work. NO….NO…NOOOOOOO. It doesn’t. It’s like you leave your brain at the door, because your trying to fit in…because your trying to be nice…because your trying to make friends…& because your trying to keep your job. You get the point. Now, don’t misunderstand. I know we have to work in order to pay bills. I do. However, being naive & stupid about the reality in the workplace…could cost you the very job you are trying so hard to hold on to. O.k.
Just because you have to work…to make ends meet, doesn’t mean you should lose your common sense about people. You must remember….people are people. Meaning…there are a lot of rotten ass people out here who don’t give a shit about you…or… your bills. Alright. They will throw your ass under bus the first chance they get. So…even in the workplace…you need to stay on your “P’s & Q’s.” Don’t let your guard down! You see…everyone who smiles in your face…is not your friend. More often, than not, they will never be your friend. This can be a hard lesson for children of God to accept & understand. Why? Because many of God’s children want to win some kind of damn “popularity” contest. They want everyone to like them. It can really hurt their heart if somebody, without just cause, doesn’t like them. My response to that is this… “Really??? How old are you? When we leave high school…we need to leave all the bullshit there too. Seriously. It’s time to stop trying to be a “people pleaser. For…It will serve you no good purpose.” Alright.
When Jesus walked the earth, He was hated & despised by oh so many people. And… not because He did something wrong. Not at all. Jesus walked in peace & … He walked in perfection. Without sin. This means, literally, He had to be the nicest person that ever walked the earth. THAT IS REALLY SAYING SOMETHING. Now…with that said… There were so many people who treated Jesus like dirt. They talked about him like a dog. Shit….They even called him the devil. Yes…”THEY CALLED GOD…THE DEVIL!” These people who proclaimed to love God, the Father… secretly were plotting the death of his son, Jesus. And…you know how that turned out. O.k.
Listen…There is nothing new under the sun. Just because we are living in the year of 2016…doesn’t change the make-up of man. Man is the same. Apostle Paul sums up the make-up of man like this…” 17 Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. 18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. 19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. 20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. 21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me. 22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. 24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? 25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. ” (Romans 7: 17-25)
So…if man is not following God…only God knows the extent of evil that is lying within that heart. It’s there &…it’s going to show itself…even in the workplace. Sometimes, that evil will manifest itself in the form of a worker “back-stabbing” a co-worker. This goes on day in & day out. There are always people in the workplace who are trying to undermine their co-workers. There seems to always be this “jockeying”… for position & status. It might look like this: One worker bad mouths another co-worker… One worker tells a Supervisor something told to them in confidence by a co-worker… One worker just outright lies on a co-worker. And…the kind of “back-stabbing” that’s actually happening in the workplace…goes on & on & on. So…
What should you do in the midst of all the “back-stabbing” that’s going on? Let me tell you. You must try to protect yourself. Now, if a person wants your job…they are probably not going to be wearing a sign saying, “I’m pretending to like you so I can stab you in the back.” A devilish spirit is hardly ever going to come at you that bold &… that direct. HELL NO. Remember this…A “Back-Stabber” is a snake wrapped in a human form.” “Back-Stabbers” are going to be a lot more subtle when they do their dirt. Meaning? Meaning…they are going to come at you with a big ass smile. (“Say…Cheeeeese”) Yes. They will try & befriend you so you can start opening up to them about your life. A “Back-Stabber” wants to gain information about you… so they can use it later…against you. Also…”Back-Stabbers” will often give insincere compliments to try & mask their underlying anger or jealousy towards you. So…
I try to emphasize this…”Stop telling everybody your got damn business at work.” Seriously. If something is on your heart that strong, hell…tell it to your therapist or tell it to your lawyer. At least, then, it’s confidential because they are bound not to tell your business. I am amazed at just how many people…use co-workers…as therapist. And…you know what??? The sad part is…they are crying on the shoulders of people whose lives are more screwed-up than theirs. Really. It’s like an alcoholic going to another alcoholic, who is still drinking, trying to get advice on how to stop drinking. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON??? People…what are you thinking? Alright…Let me move on. (Even though… I am still shaking my head as I’m writing this) Mmmhhh. Mmmhhh. Mmmhhh.
Remember this…Just because a co-worker ask you personal questions, doesn’t mean you have to answer them. When people ask me personal questions that are none of their business… I just look at them like they have 2 heads. And, I might follow it up like this… Laughing out loud & saying, “Why do you want to know?” That normally stops the conversation. You see…they are not use to that kind of response. Just because I work in the same building with 100’s of other people & they might know my name…does not mean they know me. It does not mean they should be prying into my personal business. I am not going to tell strangers my personal business. O.k.
Here’s what you need to do. Slow down your roll at work. Understand that you are at work for a purpose. That purpose being… to make money…so you can pay bills. O.k. This is not a social gathering…it’s work. Stay focused on that point & just do your job. Mind your own business…& keep your business to yourself. And, remember…”Back-Stabbers” are everywhere.
Iris Whiting ©